[This is a paper that I
wrote for a class, this MAY have “triggers” to those who have experienced
similar events so please be aware. The topic is childhood sexual abuse and its
effects on the adult who endured the event.]
I ask you to pray that this will be used to bring healing to people who
don’t even know me or expect to see this since it is so prevalent in the world.
Childhood sexual abuse
is more common than we can imagine, it takes place all over the world and it
has no gender or racial divides. Rape
can happen to the youngest to the oldest of people, but the rape itself isn’t
the most damaging of the event, it’s the after-effects of the event that took
place without a person’s consent.
WHAT
IS RAPE?
While there are various
definitions of rape, over the years it has changed. Philip’s Encyclopedia
defines rape as: “Crime of sexual intercourse without the victim's consent,
often involving the use or threat of force. If the victim is considered
incapable of giving consent (for example because s/he is below the age of
consent) this is known as statutory rape, and evidence
of lack of consent is not required.”[1] “The definition of rape
has evolved over the past 30 years, in part due to statutory rape reforms.
Federal and state governments currently use definitions of rape that recognize
the diversity of types, contexts, and victims of sexual violence. Most
jurisdictions define rape as nonconsensual completed or attempted
intercourse involving vaginal or anal penetration by a penis, hands, fingers,
or foreign object; oral penetration by a penis, with the use of force or threat
of force; or inability of a victim to provide consent as a result of age,
intoxication, or other factors. Many states have also established statutes
criminalizing other physical and verbal sexual acts.”[2]
WHO
DOES RAPE AFFECT?
Simply
put, rape affects everyone. The human
population is changed once one person is raped.
The family is changed. The individual is changed and the offender
probably holds within them more guilt than the person who already faces
self-blame and guilt for an act they didn’t even commit. Entire families are separated when sexual abuse
takes place. “Child
sexual abuse is a worldwide concern. It is an insidious, persistent, and
serious problem that, depending on the population studied and definition used,
affects 2–62% of women and 3–16% of men as victims.”[3]
Sexual abuse can take place at any place and at any time. Sexual abuse can happen in a home, bathroom,
bar, club, bedroom, school, even in Churches, but the place isn’t the problem,
the event is. Studies have actually taken place as to the particular times
where rape takes place, many may think it occurs late at night, but various
studies prove this to be different. “Most rapes occur in the evening hours.
Most of the sexual victimizations reported in the NCVS occurred between 6 p.m.
and 6 a.m. For college women in the NCWSV study, more than half of rapes
occurred after midnight, whereas few occurred during the day.”[4] Many children don’t report it to
parents or authority figures and keep it a deep dark secret well into their
adult life for fear that their parents may feel guilty for “not being there” or
other things. There are many reasons
people keep being abused sexually as a child a secret, but the vast majority
could claim that “inner pain” is the main purpose. Sexual abuse can last
minutes but the effects of it can last a lifetime.
“Despite
the plethora of research literature on female victims of childhood sexual
abuse, it is only recently that male victims have received some attention.”[5]
Society has given the false impression that a majority of cases only refer to
young girls, but when it comes to sexual abuse it has no gender, it happens to
young boys just as much as young girls. While sexual abuse as a child is quite
common, many of the times in young girls it can be noticed quickly by Doctors.
“A self-administered questionnaire including eight questions on CSA was
completed by 85 women exposed to CSA and 170 matched-control women. Women
exposed to CSA experienced gynecologic examinations as anxiety-provoking
significantly more often and sought more treatment for acute gynecologic
problems; 43.5% of these women experienced memories of the original abuse
situation during gynecologic consultations. Gynecologic care is particularly
distressing for women exposed to CSA.”[6]
THE
EFFECTS OF CHILDHOOD SEXUAL ABUSE IN ADULTS
“Child
sexual abuse rarely results in death, but its consequences to the child victim
can be serious and persist through adulthood.”[7] All
of the below listed effects and manifestations of childhood sexual abuse are
focused on the person abused, but these effects can devastate the whole
family. These effects can alter the
lives of people who had no intention or even knowledge of the event. These are brief over-views of only some of
the effects found in adults who have endured childhood sexual trauma. These
effects are devastating to the person experiencing and can cause family members
to wonder “why” their family member is showing certain signs. In reading these,
it’s important to know that it doesn’t just touch base with the victim, but the
family as well. Some of these effects that stem into a person’s adulthood and
family life are:
Low self-esteem and self-hatred
are commonly associated with those who have experienced sexual abuse as a
child. Due to the abuse someone can feel
as though they are dirty or unwanted. Low self-esteem is almost always linked to
something that happened in a person’s past and it’s not always found because
someone is overweight or isn’t advancing in life as they think they should be. Self-hatred can take place because of the
concept of not being able to fight the offender off or even because the body
(not them) found some sort of enjoyment during the rape.
Depression
is probably the highest manifestation found in adults who have been abused. At
times every person in their life becomes depressed, but when there was severe
trauma depression can almost become a part of the person’s identity. Depression causes them to go into isolation
and slowly but surely they disassociate their lives from activities that they
loved and enjoyed in the past. Family is
affected when a person is in deep depression because they may feel neglected. Depression
is the leading factor in various other manifestations in an adult’s life after
they were sexually abused as a child.
Guilt,
shame and self-blame are common links also. Self-blame is when a person blames themselves
for things that took place even though they had no control over the event
itself. Shame is when a person feels
like their identity is rooted in something, for example, a person may have
failed at something and they take on the identity of “I am a failure.” Guilt is
a common root in sexual abuse survivors as well, it’s when a person considers
themselves as “less than” or they feel they have done something wrong. Although the victim can understand they had
nothing to do with the event they can still have a strong intense feeling of
guilt. Just as shame says “I am a
failure” guilt would say “I’ve failed and won’t succeed.” Both are destructive
thought patterns that are common between sexual abuse survivors. Although many
victims blame themselves “rape
is essentially an act of power
and dominance.”[8]
Finding it hard to trust
another person is a key issue in sexual trauma. Most people know exactly who
their offender is and because of that they find it tough to trust. The child may have trusted the person who
took advantage of them so they begin to build “walls” and “barriers” in order
to “survive” just in case it takes place again because of trust.
Revictimization
is when a person experiences the same event that took place again at a later
time in life. It’s not uncommon for a
survivor of rape at a young age to have it take place again later on in life,
this is common in females but it also takes place in men’s lives as well.
“Child sexual abuse victims have a 2 to 3 times greater risk of adult
revictimization than women without a history of child sexual abuse. Physical
contact in abuse and revictimization in adolescence were found to lead to the
greatest risk of revictimization. Repeated victims had more symptoms of
Post-Traumatic Stress Disorder (PTSD) and dissociation than women with a
history of child sexual abuse alone.”[9]
Flashbacks
can be a factor with sexual abuse. A flashback is when a person feels as if the
same event is taking place in the present although it has already taken place
in the past. These flashbacks often have
“triggers” (certain things, images, smells, tastes, thoughts, etc.) that cause
a person to go into this state of mind.
Post-Traumatic
Stress Disorder is commonly found among survivors as
well, although it may not be described as Post Traumatic Stress Disorder but
“Rape Trauma Syndrome.” This is when a
person’s physical, emotional, and mental patterns are all interlinked with
anxiety, fear and distress. It’s very
close to an anxiety disorder as well. Panic disorder/attacks are symptoms. All
of the effects of sexual abuse could be linked together with Post Traumatic
Stress Disorder. This disorder develops after a person has experienced the
threat of death, injury, assaults, rapes, harm or anything that a person sees
as “traumatizing.” “A survey conducted in 1987 found that 57 percent of women
who have been raped develop post-traumatic stress disorder. These women may lose their appetite, become
easily startled, and suffer from headaches, sleep disorders, or fatigue. Many women have difficulty
maintaining a normal life following a rape, and may repress the experience for
an extended period before they are able to talk about it.”[10] PTSD
(Post Traumatic Stress Disorder) can disrupt a whole family due to the various
effects it causes on one person.
Trouble with sexual intimacy
is a factor when a person has been abused sexually as a child, due to the
closeness of sex and their rape experience it may be tough for a person to
share that part of them with someone else.
Since most people experienced their first sexual encounter with someone
at a young age that was without their consent they may feel the pain of what
took place during sexual encounters so they may be avoided altogether. On the
other hand it can cause someone to be sexually promiscuous at a young age or
later on in life.
Dissociation
is a form of a “coping skill” or “defense mechanism” that can take place in the
life of someone who was abused.
Dissociation is when a person separates themselves from their reality or
the events that took place in it. It can
be described as when an event seems almost unreal or as if it didn’t take
place. It’s when people disconnect their
feelings, identity and thoughts due to a traumatic event or the recurring
thoughts of the event that has taken place.
Drug and substance abuse
is a common link when researching childhood sexual abuse. Drug addiction and alcohol addiction always
has a root in the past. Nobody wakes up
and says to their family “I am going to get addicted to heroin and ruin your
lives.” If nobody says that there must be something that has taken place in the
life of a person that would lead them down that road. It’s important to acknowledge that this may
be a sign and symptom in someone’s life that has been abused, but maybe hasn’t
revealed this information yet.
Eating disorders
can also be found in victims, this is when a person overeats or under eats.
It’s a form of self-harm and self-abuse towards the body, perhaps the mind
makes a person think they are “under control” of their body (unlike the abuse)
because they are controlling their eating habits.
Phobias
are common. Phobia comes from the Greek word “phobos” which means “fear.” Certain fears can develop certain patterns or
biblically speaking “strongholds” because of the victimization at a young age. Due to the events often taking place at a
young age these phobias are developed at a young age and in the process they
stem into their adult life. The phobia
can be compared to pouring concrete. The
abuse causes a person to develop a specific fear (the concrete being poured)
and because they are young and they don’t know how to deal with these fears in
a proper manner they linger into adulthood (concrete sets). Once these phobias are “set in” they are hard
to break and those dealing with these phobias no matter how irrational they are
still fears to the person suffering under them.
Common phobias found in victims of sexual abuse are: fear of people,
fear of public places (such as places where the events took place) commonly
known as “agoraphobia”, fears of public speaking, fears of certain features on
a person (ones similar to the person who abused them), fear of eating in front
of others, fear of failure, fear of success, fear of intimacy, fear of
betrayal, fear of being left alone, fear of being touched, fear of rejection
and various other phobias that can take place in the life of the person. They
can also show forms of “hypervigilence” which is a symptom of Post-Traumatic
Stress Disorder. This is when a person
is always “on guard” and “alert” for any type of danger or “thing” that could
cause potential threat or harm to them or others.
Self-injury
otherwise known as “self-harm” is a coping skill that people can bring into
their lives to cause pain and injury on themselves. Just as panic attacks and flashbacks
self-injury often takes place when “triggers” are found. Self-injury isn’t just found in cutting or
burning someone, it can take place when a person is careless about their sexual
life and are promiscuous. Self-harm can
take the form of anything including drug addiction and substance abuse. Many people believe self-harm to be something
that isn’t too serious but it’s something that is far too serious because it
can lead into the next manifestation of childhood sexual abuse on adult
survivors.
The
worst thing that can take place is suicide. Suicide is taking one’s own life. Unfortunately someone who has experienced
sexual abuse can lose hope not only in people and themselves, but life in
general. Other than suicide attempts
this is the most destructive effect that can take place in the life of a person
who was abused as a child or an adult for that matter. Anyone threatening
suicide or contemplating thoughts of suicide should see a Doctor as soon as
possible and should know that God loves them and still has a greater purpose
and plan behind their lives, something that will surpass the events that have
caused them to feel hopeless.
Through
my own personal research the life of a person who has been sexually abused can
be compared to a shattered mirror. When
that person sees a reflection of themselves, they only see fragments and when
they are being healed and made whole by God it’s as if they are trying to
“sweep” the pieces of the mirror together by their hands without gloves to fix
it resulting in hurting themselves again.
With time, patience, God, prayer, the Bible, counseling, medication,
great Doctors and anything else that is necessary the person can go from a
victim to a victor. When seeking medical advice and medicine in general from a
Doctor, remember to pray and ask God to give them His wisdom so that you can
find what best suits you because what helps you will help your family and the
lives of those around you. The truth is through Christ anyone who has
experienced such an event has the right to feel hurt, but they also have the
right to be helped by people and believed by people, but more so they are
already overcomers through the blood of Jesus Christ.
WHERE
IS GOD IN ALL OF THIS?
The
initial cause of rape wasn’t found merely in the person who was the offender,
but found in the Garden of Eden. The
Book of Genesis records the beginning of creation and the first man, Adam. Adam was given a wife by God and they lived
in harmony with God, but Satan sought to destroy that and he used sin in order
to do that. Once Adam and Eve sinned the
effects (similar to rape) spanned throughout their lives and we are still
feeling the effects of it today. God’s
plan wasn’t for what we have today on Earth which includes wars, famines,
disease, poverty and even rape, but it all took place because of Satan and sin.
Nevertheless, although sin arose so did a Savior and His name is Jesus
Christ. In the process of time God sent
His Son into the world to redeem mankind from the power of sin and separation
from God but we still feel the effects of sin in this world. God loved us so much that He knew the only
way to restore full fellowship with Him was to allow His Son to be born into a
sinful world, experiencing the effects of sin and around age 33 to die for the
sins of the world.
Rape
has taken place in the Bible as well.
It’s found all throughout the Bible. It’s common in our life and in our
past. In Robin A. Parry’s commentary on the book of Lamentations he says: “In
the ancient world rape was often used as a deliberate strategy of humiliation
to signal to opponents that they could not protect their own women. Even after
the siege and the fall of Jerusalem, the situation remains one of ongoing
violence in which the women of Judah (both married and unmarried women) are
raped in Zion and in the other cities. There is nowhere safe. Judah’s enemies
want to make clear who is in control. The Hebrew word here means “raped” (Gen
34:2; 2 Sam 13:14) often means “to humiliate” or “to afflict.” The humiliation
of women who are raped and also of the men who cannot protect them is the
focus.”[11]
IN
CONCLUSION AND TO THOSE WHO HAVE ENDURED RAPE
You
are not alone. I would like to remind you that God still has a purpose and a
plan for your life. God’s purpose won’t
be destroyed by an event that tried to destroy you. Satan the enemy of mankind
was the initial instigator of the event that took place in your life. As you
develop as a Christian and accept Jesus Christ as your personal Savior God will
begin the healing process and that healing process may be tough, but it’s for
your good. God has a plan for your life,
it’s important to know that and it’s just as important to know that The Holy
Spirit is at work in your life. The
event may have happened but the fact that you are alive is proof there is hope,
there is a reason and there is a purpose; Gods purpose. The LORD loves you with an unconditional
love, no matter what you have done His love for you won’t change and it cannot
be stopped by sin. The event that may
have taken place may make you feel the effects of the things listed above, but
in time those effects may go away, but until then, begin to learn about Jesus
through the Bible, accepting Him and His work in your life because you are
loved, you are somebody, you are loved, you are accepted, you are approved, you
are His child. Don’t let an event stop you from changing the world because in
time you will as you develop in your walk with Jesus Christ. God will open doors for you to speak on this
topic perhaps one on one or perhaps even bigger and broader doors will open
where you will speak with audience after audience of people who have dealt with
this issue. Many times people develop
“walls” and build “barriers” in order to protect themselves, but when healing
begins you see the need for the walls to come down. Ryan Rush describes the struggle of the walls
coming down by saying: “You begin to doubt that the wall can ever come down.
Anytime you stop expecting something beyond your current situation, you begin
to settle for far less than what could be.”[12]
However, with God it is possible. The real truth of God that you need to keep
in mind through it all is this: “all
things work together for good to them that love God to the called according to
His purpose.” (Romans 8:28) I love you and He does too.
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